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![[*]](./images/engage/default_icon.gif) posted on 3-7-10 at 09:21 AM |
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UkPaul's daily achievements thread
Hello all, only my second post, the first being my recovery plan. Part of this is to record my daily achievements- and I can't think of a better place
to do so than here. I have searched for a similar thread but not found one, but if there is then please move or merge this one.
Anyone else who wants to add to this, feel free to do so.
So here are yesterday's,
2nd July 2010
- told my GF I had guessed the code-lock on her Iphone (the only Internet access in the house at present)
- didn't glance or look at the magazine rack in the store
- didn't have any extended looks at women whilst out
- signed up on PAI
- called Sex Addicts Anonymous and left a message
- took any DVDs that may contain triggers to the charity shop
- shared with my GF some of my experinces with PA as I remembered them
- held my GF properly for the first time ie, without any secrets
- fitted a washing machine
- noticed my GF has one pupil bigger than the other for the first time ie I wasn't afraid to look into her eyes
- wrote a recovery plan
Cheers,
UkPaul
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| posted on 4-7-10 at 04:35 AM |
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3rd July 2010
- shared more of my past, both P related and unrelated with my GF
- spoke to a representative of the SAA and will be put in touch with the rep for my local meetings, so hopefully I can attend my first meeting on
Tuesday
- had another trip to the shops with my GF where I didn't check out any women/magazines etc
- built a BBQ
- ordered Patrick Carnes 'shadows of the net' book from Amazon
- spent an evening at a restaurant without drinking or checking out other women
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| posted on 4-7-10 at 04:54 AM |
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 - I need to build a barbecue today ... for me that will be an incredible
achievment 
"I want to be able, as days go by, always to look myself straight in the eye." Edgar Guest
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| posted on 4-7-10 at 10:41 AM |
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my SO has promised a lot more DIY challenges for me, now I have all these extra hours to fill!
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| posted on 5-7-10 at 01:08 PM |
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4th July 2010
- a long and honest discussion with my SO prompted by viewing some Patrick Carnes interview clips
- went out again with my SO and didn't look at any women/magazines etc
- posted a new thread in the journal section of the forum
- visited a place I had always wanted to, but had never given myself the time, because of P
- started meditating
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| posted on 7-7-10 at 01:22 PM |
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Been a busy few days- still had time to write, but not to post...
5th July 2010
- spoke to my area contact for SAA to arrange going to the Tuesday night meeting
- spent a day on my own without acting out
- wrote more for journal (already posted)
- spent time on my own outside and managed to mainly not look at women
6th July 2010
- attended 1st SAA meeting
think that's enough for one day :-) Will try and journal my experiences with SAA when I get the time
7th July 2010
- spoke to a member of SAA to share my number with another member i had met
- had a (reasonably, relatively!) productive day at work
- I managed to stop myself from cursing inwardly at people, traffic lights, cars, and anything else that didn't do exactly what I wanted
- arranged to go on a bike ride with a friend on Sunday
- managed to look at less women than ever I can remember on my journey home
- started reading the first three steps
- cooked my SO a meal that she liked
cheers
UkPaul
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| posted on 7-7-10 at 07:57 PM |
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Excellent! Walking through that door into one's first SAA meeting is a huge accomplishment. You're doing great stuff.
Tim M.
"We try, and we try, and we fail; and then we go deeper." -Suzuki Roshi
"In other traditions demons are expelled externally. But in my tradition demons are accepted with compassion." -Machig Labdrön
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Come my friends, 'tis not too late to seek a newer world.
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Doing some great stuff Paul!
Happiness, wisdom and peace are always inside us - we just have to sit still long enough to notice.
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| posted on 9-7-10 at 12:26 PM |
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Thanks for the encouragement guys, it means alot
8th July 2010
- phoned my temp SAA sponsor in the early morning when struggling
- cycled to and from work
- spent an evening on my own in the house, without acting out
- phoned two SAA members just to 'check in'
- meditated for 20 minutes
- had an early night
9th July 2010
- cycled to and from work again
- had a productive morning at work (better than nothing!)
- ordered two books on Buddhism, one specifically on vipassana meditation
- meditated for 30 minutes
- turned down a few offers to go out boozing, even though it us Friday
- arranged to meet a friend on sunday to watch the world cup final, telling him in advance that I won't be drinking
- cooked another meal that my SO liked 
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| posted on 11-7-10 at 12:38 PM |
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10th July 2010
- attended my second SAA meeting
- did the household shopping
- turned down an invite to go drinking in the evening
- spoke to a few SAA members on the phone when feeling low
- spent the evening studying Buddhism and meditating
- spent an evening on my own and didn't act out!
11th July 2010
- spoke to another SAA member in the morning
- went on a 6 hour bike ride! ( I can't walk now)
- cooked dinner for my SO
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| posted on 18-7-10 at 11:31 AM |
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Ok, been a week since I posted on here. It's been a difficult week and I've felt that achievements have been thin on the ground- I hope that's not the
case and it's just my head that sees it that way! Most importantly I've been to my SA meetings and kept clean. I've also been away from the board- I
have to try and get back to posting regularly.
I'll just post a general achievements for the past week instead of day by day- a 'highlights', if you will
July 11th - July 18th 2010
- attended two SA meetings
- contacted a counsellor to arrange some therapy sessions
- passed a personal best for no MB; as far back as I can remember, I've never went longer than two weeks, until now
- phoned SA members when having tough times
- continued cycling to work
as I said, pretty thin on the ground  Keep going I guess...
Cheers
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Sounds like a great week to me. Those are all important steps. The goal isn't to to be fixed in 7 days, but to keep doing the next right thing.
Tim M.
"We try, and we try, and we fail; and then we go deeper." -Suzuki Roshi
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| posted on 18-7-10 at 12:48 PM |
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Thanks Tim, a secondary perspective helps.
Cheers,
UkPaul
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Good stuff UKPaul!
I went for many years without getting help. Many times I came close to quitting by myself, but until recently have continued with the occasional
small slip. Discovering this online resource recently has really given me a huge boost in my recovery. A lot is coming to the surface, as it is
great to be able to share ones thoughts with a group of people who have, or have worked through similar problems.
You sound very positive and that's inspiring to me as I am working on my life in a similar way.
Ash
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| posted on 19-7-10 at 06:30 AM |
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That's really really inspiring and delighting, what you write here!
Blessed be our SOs...
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It's been a really tough day- a hard day at the office, if you will. Been feeling very low, was just about to call it a night when my SO showed me
your replies. It's no lie to say that they helped me out of a stupor- thanks, alot 
18th July 2010
- had a great afternoon helping my SO volunteering at a charity event
- went out for an hour on the bike, even though it was the last thing I wanted to do
- took a call from another SA member
- took steps to try and join the PAI skype meeting
- spent substantial time on my own, with alot of H.A.L.T., but didn't act out
- ordered the White book
- started posting here again
- 3 weeks without any alcohol
Thanks again, you guys have inspired me too
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Another hard and busy week, hence not been able to post as much as I'd like. Again, revolving around work.
19th - 24th July 2010
- handed my notice in at work. Not really an achievement in the classical sense, but something I needed to do.
- had two estate agents value my flat. Better price than anticipated.
- made a list of work that needs to be done on my flat before selling
- spoke to a member of the SA every day
- got a sponsor
- started work on step 0
- a month with no alcohol!!!
- no P or MB. I always forget to put this as an achievement. Probably the most important achievement I'm making every day...
Cheers,
UkPaul
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Wonderful stuff! Thank you for the inspiring progress reports!
Tim M.
"We try, and we try, and we fail; and then we go deeper." -Suzuki Roshi
"In other traditions demons are expelled externally. But in my tradition demons are accepted with compassion." -Machig Labdrön
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Wow, what an amazing bounce-back from addiction this is! So much positivity and pro-activity in this thread I feel the need to renovate my bathroom
Excellent stuff!!
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| posted on 29-7-10 at 04:24 AM |
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You're inspiring everybody.
Me included.
Porn is boring.
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| posted on 30-7-10 at 11:02 AM |
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Come my friends, 'tis not too late to seek a newer world.
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| posted on 31-7-10 at 07:43 AM |
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I'm quite envious.
Keep up the good work.
Porn is boring.
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